Week 4 - challenge

Now that your fingers have been getting a good sort of workout for a few weeks, thought it might be time to give them a new challenge.
Hope your time with the claw is going well, as always, do feel free to ask any questions either anonymously comment or private message me and I am more than happy to clarify.
In an effort to grow your intimacy and connection with your partner, as well as use some of the new finger strength you should have from the claw, I thought this week's challenge could be a massage. Not your usual massage, though.
Apart from perhaps pregnancy when you're encouraged to massage your perineum I'm not sure that massage 'down there' is particularly common practice. A shame for a number of reasons - firstly because of the obvious pleasure you are both missing out on, secondly, because those muscles in your groin and genital area are hugely utilised and deserve a bit a of rub from time to time. It will also mean that the muscles will get supple over time, so when you do fall pregnant you already have a good stretchy foundation.
Of course 'Down There' incorporates your vagina and your butt, I'm going to focus on the vagina here to begin with.
So, some starter tips...
Women lie on your back. Partner: use both hands to stretch the legs open to a V, and start easing the inner thigh muscles, working your way up to the groin muscles. Go outward-in (from knee to groin) in your strokes and adjust your pressure according to the feedback you're getting.
Move to the pelvic bones, each hand on either side of the labia (but not touching the labia, just the space between labia and pelvic bone / thigh), add pressure there, release tension, do all this slowly. Move your hands up and continue to use a Swedish massage type motion to get your hands massaging either side of the clitoris. Then using your fingers try to discover the length of the clitoris beneath the skin - the little pink end bit is just that - the end - imagine it like a miniature penis with the head sticking out and its long bit trailing behind it, beneath the skin. Try not to touch the head, but only the muscles beneath the skin, the 'root' of it. Move your hands back down to either side of the labia, keep your hands in place and use your thumbs to start massaging gently the perineum (or skin/muscle between vagina and anus). Be gentle but start to move towards the lower side of the vaginal opening. Now start to massage the labia - use pressure and technique according to feedback - try slight squeezes, tickles, long pulls/stretches. Take your time, work as a duo (onus is on the woman to be moaning and saying 'yes that feels good', or 'i liked the other thing' better etc). The vagina will most likely be getting appropriately lubricated by now, if not, keep going slowly, keep relaxing the muscles, find the stimulation points. If you need help with lubrication, then feel free to add some bottled stuff at this point - Durex Play is good as it sort of doubles as a massage oil as well. Now start to massage from the inside (that's all sex really is!) with a finger. Maybe your index. Remember - pulse not prod - no in-out-motion-ramming, keep your finger in place, then move it slightly like a worm, or pulse intermittently. What you are massaging is the top (belly side) vaginal wall - this is, as discussed previously) where all the good bits are. Nerves, g-spot, bladder/urethra.. I recently read there is also an a-spot (that's the deep down bit near your urethra). Whatever you call them, it doesn't matter, you'll find them anyhow. Just massage with one or two fingers that top belly-side vaginal wall, working your way deeper in.
Counteract this internal pressure with the other hand pressing on the belly/bladder area. (Women if you feel the urge to pee do not stop it, go with it, it is far more likely a sign that you are about to orgasm and/or ejaculate rather than about to pee.)
Feel free to ad lib at any point, this is just a starting point. See where it takes you. Might just be a massage that ends with a cuddle, might be penetrative sex, that's entirely up to you.

And it obviously works both ways. Women can massage men in a surprisingly similar way. Men are often far less flexible than women, so an inner groin, thigh muscle massage is an equally enjoyable way to begin. You can apply pressure to either side of the pelvic bones, the bladder, the areas around the penis, without actually touching the penis. Their skin/muscle bit between the balls and anus. Men have extra sensitive bits round there, that can be very pleasurable to be pressed... go right up to the almost-entrance of the balls-side of the anus.
Finally, come back up pressing the sides around the testicles to reach the base of the penis, start from the shaft and massage - according to feedback and your prior knowledge of the penis's sensitivity! Some men find it almost unbearable for anything other than light pressure, some enjoy a very hard squeezing - discover for yourself if you didn't know before. Try with light stroking, one palm only, from shaft to tip. (Add lube at this point so as not cause any unncessary chafing) then one hand squeezing gently from shaft to tip, then thumbs pressing points all the way around from bottom to top. Often the bit where circumcised penis' foreskin used to join is a pleasurable spot to touch for a man, and touching the skin join bit it often feels good for uncircumcised also.
Ad lib, be spontaneous, curious, go with the flow. The idea behind this is to discover, relax and stimulate in turns.