Week 3 - challenge

This challenge assumes you've read and tried out the claw and had a little bit of a go with getting to know your vagina. But it's not essential to have done so, it will simply enhance the experience if you have.
I was surprised to hear recently that some couples have never masturbated in front of each other. Huh? How does that even happen! Rectify that situation immediately!
Spend a night where you don't plan to have sex. Yes, I know this blog is supposed to be about sex and so far I keep on saying don't focus on penetrative sex, but there is a reason for it - method to my madness. The truth is, if you do it this way, you'll more than likely end up having great penetrative sex anyway, but if you focus on just the sex part, you'll either not have it, or ho-hum have it.
So, again, dispense with the need to have naked penetrative sex! For one night anyway. Lie or stand or do it any which way you feel comfortable, but masturbate with your partner. You can try doing it yourself, while he watches, vice versa, or both masturbate simultaneously. Do it clothes/undies on if that works for you, do it off, do both... claw yourself! Make yourself feel as good as you can, give your partner the reassurance that they can be free to do the same for themselves. Retreat into your own lost pleasurable head space.. in some cases it does require a mental switch of deciding not to hold back for fear of looking silly. This is your partner, you love each other. You will not look silly. Most people (especially men) I talk to say they get aroused when they see someone genuinely feeling good and being pleasured and looking like they're enjoying themselves.
So what does this achieve?
1. Builds trust/comfortability... gets both of you feeling free to just let go and have fun, the way you like it.
2. Education... your partner gets to see how you touch yourself, you see what they like, you can try it out on each other later
3. Visual Stimulus (i.e. Looks HOT)... men always get the bad press about needing visual stimulus, often porn, to get aroused. But both genders are turned on by looking at hot things. Embrace the voyeur and the performer in yourself.. enjoy and revel in the watching and the being watched. It will be a huge turn on.
Try it and see what it leads to..